Tracey Cox reveals the 6 surprising sex experiences most men crave - but will never admit to (and they're a lot more 'vanilla' than you might expect!)

They’re surely not awkward erstwhile asking if you’d indulge their number 1 imagination – a threesome (of course).

But erstwhile it comes to nan much touchy-feely broadside of sex, tons of men are excessively embarrassed to inquire for what they really want.

Here’s six of nan activity experiences he secretly longing for…

TO BE TOUCHED AND CARESSED

He says: “When we person sex, it’s very overmuch a lawsuit of ‘put that wrong maine and get connected pinch it’. I can’t retrieve nan past clip my woman touched maine lovingly, fto unsocial caressed maine successful a intersexual way.”

The request for beingness touch is simply a basal quality request for affectional well-being - but it’s nan first point to spell successful a narration wherever 1 of you doesn’t bask sex. If rubbing and kissing is seen arsenic a awesome of intersexual interest, you aren’t going to do it if you don’t want sex.

I’m not judge group realise conscionable really dire nan consequences are erstwhile you extremity beingness affection.

Without touch, men consciousness emotionally distant from their partners. Isolated and lonely, they mobility their beingness attractiveness and desirability. Intimacy successful nan narration breaks down, making immoderate activity that does hap consciousness mechanical and forced.

I get dozens of letters from men successful debased aliases no-sex relationships saying really miserable they are that their wives don’t show them immoderate affection. Sometimes, it’s nan rubbing much than nan activity that they miss nan most.

Make his day: Tell him you’re tense to touch him successful lawsuit it’s misinterpreted arsenic you wanting sex, and work together connected a clear, spoken ‘I want sex’ awesome truthful cuddling, kissing and spoon-style snuggling tin resume.

TO SEE YOU NAKED FOR AS LONG AS POSSIBLE

He says: “I committedness she tin undress and jump nether nan covers successful little than a 2nd – and that’s immoderate chance I had of looking astatine her naked over.”

Men are highly ocular creatures – which is 1 logic why porn appeals to men while reference erotica appeals much to women. Devouring your assemblage pinch their eyes while having activity pinch you, is 1 of their top pleasures – and 1 that’s often denied them. It's lights disconnected and nether nan covers successful much bedrooms than you realise.

Body image is simply a large rumor for tons of women: we consciousness awkward and ashamed astir our bodies and don’t consciousness comfortable being looked at. An admiring regard tin consciousness captious if you’re paranoid astir really you look. Which is why women often undress quickly erstwhile activity is connected nan schedule – sometimes while he’s not moreover successful nan room - past hide themselves away.

Make his day: Ask him to undress you aliases do it yourself – slowly. Treat getting naked arsenic a somewhat velocity up striptease. If you consciousness awkward aliases uncomfortable being watched, adjacent your eyes.

TO SHOW YOU DESIRE HIM

He says: “My woman has ne'er initiated activity successful nan full 18 years we person been together. It sends a clear message: I’m only having activity pinch you because you want to.”

He’s right: not ever being nan 1 to propose activity does nonstop beardown messages. I don’t desire you. I’m only having activity to please you. Sex pinch you isn’t enjoyable. You don’t please maine successful bed.

Her initiating activity much is nan astir requested activity enactment from men – it’s been nan apical of his astir wanted database since I started penning astir activity decades ago.

Make his day: Do this one, elemental point – initiate activity erstwhile you ne'er aliases seldom do – and you will toggle shape your activity life, sloppy of what sorry authorities it’s in.

TO BASK IN A LITTLE PENIS WORSHIP

He says: “Women person nary thought of nan shame that comes from having an undersized penis. Having to laughter on pinch each those jokes astir size, watching her look autumn erstwhile you first uncover it. Our position of our penis is truthful tied up successful our identity, it feels for illustration you can’t really emotion america without loving it.”

There is nary female balanced to a penis. Our genitals are tucked distant retired of sight, breasts tin beryllium altered to make them bigger aliases smaller, orgasms tin beryllium faked. His penis is not only connected show, pinch ejaculation grounds of orgasm, there’s still nary successful cognition to change nan magnitude aliases width. Viagra whitethorn make him harder but it won’t extremity him ejaculating earlier he aliases you are ready.

Nothing, but nothing, affects nan antheral ego much than nan size and capacity of his intersexual organ. For immoderate men, his full self-worth is successful tatters purely because he perceives it to beryllium excessively mini aliases he’s excessively speedy to orgasm.

Make his day: Let him cognize his penis is nan cleanable size and style for you and what he does pinch it feels fantastic. If he has an erection wobble aliases immoderate different capacity issue, don’t overreact. Let him cognize its normal and is thing to beryllium embarrassed about.

TO BE COMPLIMENTED

He says: “My woman perpetually bigs maine up. She grabs my biceps admiringly erstwhile I’m backmost from nan gym; if thing bully happens astatine work, there’s champagne and a ceremony waiting for maine astatine home. I consciousness for illustration a king. A batch of women don’t understand really insecure men are and really desperately we want your approval.”

Men are socialised to prosecute women, utilizing compliments to triumph them over. We were raised to expect compliments from men: to beryllium told we’re pretty, sexy, attractive.

Women are taught to respect men chiefly for their activity aliases financial achievements. It’s not ‘manly’ for a man to inquire for validation connected different things. When we station a photo, our followers jump successful instantly to show america really awesome we look. This doesn’t hap for men. His partner is often nan only root of compliments, particularly astir his quality – truthful load them on! Ditto what a awesome begetter he is, really overmuch you admit his advice, really benignant and thoughtful he is.

Make his day: Men request reassurance and to cognize they are loved conscionable arsenic overmuch arsenic women do. Aim to springiness astatine slightest 1 compliment a day: a operation of non-sexual (Thanks truthful overmuch for your thief earlier) and intersexual (I swear, you springiness nan champion oral activity successful nan world).

TO HEAR YOU ENJOYING YOURSELF (AND NOT JUST AT THE END)

He says: “I’ve slept pinch tons of women and astir stay wholly silent until nan end. When they deliberation you’re astir to orgasm (or want you to), abruptly they’ll moan and groan. It feels fake. If they were really enjoying it, why didn’t they make immoderate sound beforehand?”

Noise is audible feedback: a motion nan personification you’re having activity pinch is enjoying themselves alternatively than wishing it was each over.

It’s besides highly useful arsenic feedback/instruction: thing other men crave but don’t for illustration asking for. Moan erstwhile he hits nan spot, and he knows he’s recovered it.

For women, going silent tin beryllium thing we do to thief america orgasm: we adjacent our eyes and fantasise aliases attraction connected sensations to climax. Men don’t realise this, truthful if soundlessness is what you request to get there, fto him cognize this is why you’re quiet.

Make his day: You don’t person to talk soiled aliases shriek nan location down. But a gasp, moan aliases ‘That feels fantastic’ murmured into his receptor lets him cognize you are loving nan acquisition arsenic overmuch arsenic he hopes you are.

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