Hospice nurse reveals her best advice for ensuring a peaceful death - but you must act NOW

If you're bully astatine readying past it conscionable whitethorn lead to a much serene death, according to an expert.

Julie McFadden, from Los Angeles, who is known connected societal media arsenic Hospice Nurse Julie, regularly uploads videos astir decease and what happens astatine nan extremity of someone's life.

In a caller clip, she shared what you tin do successful bid to person a serene passing - and she says it comes down to preparedness and acceptance.

'That's 1 of nan biggest things I see,' she explained. 'People who scheme for decease will thin to person a much serene decease than those who do not scheme for death.'

'A prepared decease versus a non-prepared decease - that's nan 1 point that I've seen successful each of my patients,' she explained.

Julie said she noticed nan patients that were 'willing to talk astir nan difficult stuff' had a much serene death.

'[That means] consenting to inquire nan questions about, "how agelong do you deliberation I have? What tin I expect? What should I do earlier I dice to make this easier for my family?"' she listed.

From her acquisition arsenic a hospice nurse, erstwhile those questions were asked group person a amended life and a much serene end.

Julie shared a communicative of erstwhile a diligent of hers died peacefully surrounded by his family.

She explained that nan diligent was successful hospice and had started to diminution astir 20 minutes aft she arrived.

'He started having weird changes successful breathing, truthful this was a abrupt diminution and it looked for illustration he whitethorn abruptly die,' she recalled, adding nan abrupt alteration was 'uncommon actually' successful hospice care.

'What I noticed was because this family - and him - were truthful prepared, alternatively of nan family [being] chaotic and reacting successful an affectional measurement - which is very normal - they flipped on correct pinch him,' she explained.

'[They laid] successful furniture pinch him. They understood instantly what was happening. They didn't panic,' she shared.

Julie said nan man was surrounded by his loving family and it was an overwhelmingly affectional experience.

'It makes maine outcry each clip I deliberation astir it - that imagination of them each being capable to understand what was happening, moreover though it was a alteration they didn't want,' she explained.

Julie noted that nan acquisition could person been 'so different' if nan family wasn't prepared for it.

'Because it was truthful soon and truthful speedy and truthful abrupt but because they were consenting and capable and ready, it was this beautiful infinitesimal of love,' she explained.

'By nan extremity of that sojourn he died, truthful he went from benignant of looking okay to dying which is difficult - but that family made it a beautiful moment,' she said.

Julie explained it was important for group to retrieve that decease doesn't person to beryllium chaotic, but it does impact having to person immoderate uncomfortable conversations pinch friends and family.

'Talk to your loved ones,' she urged. 'Everyone talk to each different astir what they want astatine nan extremity of life - specifically, do you want to beryllium astatine home? Do you want extended treatment? What happens if you person a cardiac arrest?' she listed.

'I mean very, very, elaborate things and it's going to alteration depending connected what property you are, but astatine slightest person a wide knowing of what you want now,' she suggested.

Julie said having these discussions will thief families erstwhile a loved 1 does pass.

'You really request to get clear pinch your family and friends astir what you genuinely want truthful they know,' she pointed out.

She besides suggested penning retired an obituary aliases telling group what they want successful it and moreover detailing what nan personification wants their ceremonial to look for illustration truthful nan family doesn't person to 'do guesswork.'

From a aesculapian constituent of view, Julie said not to underestimate keeping a strict medicine routine, arsenic it will thief negociate symptoms.

'If symptoms aren't being managed you request to telephone your hospice institution truthful they tin thief you,' she suggested, adding changing nan hospice attraction supplier if it doesn't suit nan needs of nan personification successful question.

Although it whitethorn beryllium difficult to accept, Julie revealed she sees a immense quality successful those who person accepted nan alteration and that fto group astir them thief and to make bid pinch 'living successful nan grey.'

'People who are [able to judge change] willingly, and are capable to do that always, always, ever unrecorded amended and dice better,' she explained.

She shared a cautionary communicative of group who are much resistant to change.

'Always nan patients who are unwilling to judge help, unwilling to judge that they person beingness limitations now ever person issues always, person falls, get hurt, extremity up having to time off their home,' she bluntly told viewers. 'It gets messy.'

The caregiver shared tips for group who are battling a terminal illness aliases for nan loved ones of personification successful that position.

'If you're not connected hospice yet but you do person immoderate benignant of illness that you are getting curen for, perceive to your body,' she urged.

'If you are nan loved 1 of personification who has this, fto them perceive to their body,' she  advised.

'If they're telling you they don't want to eat, don't make them eat. If they're telling you they want to sleep, fto them sleep.

'As long arsenic they are cleanable that's nan only point I say, arsenic agelong arsenic they're cleanable they tin do immoderate they want, truthful they want to slumber fto them slumber - don't make them do anything. Allow them to perceive to their body,' Julie said.

The caregiver vanished her passionate video by encouraging everyone to talk to their loved ones and to deliberation astir readying for their deaths.

'We scheme for everything but we ne'er talk astir our scheme for nan 1 point that's going to hap to each of america which is dying,' she points out.

'We don't scheme it, we don't talk astir it, we don't enactment for illustration it's happening. We unrecorded successful this world of for illustration "it's not ne'er going to hap to immoderate of america and past erstwhile it does we are shocked,"' she continued.

'So let's not do that anymore... This is your telephone to action to commencement reasoning about,' she concluded.