Break-up coach shares her three 'controversial' rules to make a relationship work - including a ban on PDA

A 'break-up coach' who helps group cultivate 'self-love' has revealed nan 3 'controversial things' that make her narration work. 

In a TikTok video that's been viewed almost 650,000 times, Lauren Savage, from Southampton, admits that nan boundaries that she and her fellow of 3 years, Somto, person put successful spot are 'a small spot different, but it's what useful for us.'

But while galore of her viewers person praised Lauren's narration hacks arsenic 'healthy' and 'adult', others person wondered if nan video was an effort to person herself that their attack is simply a bully one.

Lauren, who posts arsenic @laurenjasminecoaching acknowledges that 'no 2 relationships are ever going to beryllium nan same' earlier introducing her first hack, which is having 2 duvets. 

She said it's nan 'solution to an ongoing problem' that has troubled their relationship. 

'We some cocoon ourselves. I emotion to beryllium wrapped up, he loves to beryllium wrapped up,' she told viewers.

In nan past, they would 'actually suffer sleep' fighting complete nan duvet.

'He would return it from me, I would return it from him,' she said.

Anticipating viewers' imaginable criticisms of nan couple's approach, Lauren emhpasised that she and Somto 'do for illustration to cuddle' - and nan 2 duvets hack doesn't forestall them from doing so. 

She added: 'They're duvets. You tin move them. If we want to cuddle, we still can.'

Moving connected to nan 2nd 'controversial thing' that makes her narration activity well, Lauren told her assemblage that she and Somto thin not to talk erstwhile 1 of them is away.

'If 1 of america goes distant for nan nighttime aliases nan play somewhere, we don't really talk,' Lauren said.

She explained that not texting each nan clip is 'the measurement we conscionable benignant of respect each other's "me" clip and respect each other's ain independent plans.'

While it hasn't ever been that measurement - astatine nan opening of their narration nan mates 'were texting conscionable for nan liking of it' - Lauren was speedy to constituent retired nan use of mounting this benignant of boundary.  

'When we travel backmost together - which we will because I'm only distant for a play - we're going to person truthful overmuch to talk about,' she told viewers. 

The brace don't trim interaction completely, though. Rather, they still speech 'goodnight' and 'good morning' texts erstwhile they are apart.

The 3rd and last 'controversial thing' is Lauren and Somto's shared penchant erstwhile it comes to nationalist displays of affection (PDA). 

'We don't do PDA,' Lauren says, adding that her siblings 'pick her up connected it' because they are 'extremely tactile' pinch their ain partners. 

While her siblings 'are perpetually hand-holding' and cuddling 'no matter who they're successful beforehand of,' Lauren and Somto 'just don't do it.'

She added: 'I deliberation it's conscionable nan type of group we are.' 

Yet Lauren was speedy to reassure viewers that they are, successful fact, very affectionate towards each different erstwhile they're unsocial and occasionally spell against their ain guidelines, holding hands successful nationalist aliases kissing successful beforehand of her family. 

She insisted that nan deficiency of PDA doesn't mean that she and Somto don't emotion each other. 

'It doesn't mean we're conscionable companions,' she added.  

Lauren pointed retired that she doesn't deliberation nan 3 narration hacks are 'that strange'.

One personification commented: 'Separate duvets is really elite'.

Another added: 'The not forcing talking erstwhile you guys are doing your ain point is truthful real... I shouldn't expect my different half to springiness maine ALL her time'.

A 3rd personification agreed, writing: 'Amen to nan not talking erstwhile not together'. 

TikTokers besides appreciated Lauren's attack to PDA, pinch a 4th personification posting: 'The nary PDA successful beforehand of family is truthful real'.

A 5th praised Lauren and Somto's attack successful its entirety, writing: 'Not judge why this is arguable to people? This genuinely sounds for illustration a safe, trustworthy narration and I honestly respect everything you've conscionable said!' 

A sixth said: 'Sounds patient and not co-dependent'.  

Others agreed, particularly erstwhile it came to nan 2 duvets, explaining that it is really a communal solution successful galore parts of Europe.

One personification explained: 'I knowledgeable nan full abstracted duvets point astatine a edifice successful Iceland (same bed) and honestly it's a crippled changer'.

A 2nd added: 'Separate duvets is nan norm successful Scandinavia and it is simply a GODSEND!!!'

Another swathe of users took nan opportunity to stock their ain narration hacks.

One explained that alternatively than plumping for abstracted duvets, she and her partner 'just bought a larger duvet' which is 'more aesthetically pleasing' than 2 mismatched azygous duvets. 

While a 2nd admitted: 'I wouldn't moreover want to slumber successful nan aforesaid bed'.

Yet not everyone agreed that Lauren's 'controversial things' were nan answer. 

One personification lamented: 'As personification pinch mega separation anxiety  from my partner of 5 years, I wish I could do nan nary texting thing'. 

While personification said: 'Are you trying to person america aliases yourself'.